She encourages us to first consider our connection and humanity. But her stance is one of seeking to understand or becoming curious rather than taking sides. Yes, Brown bravely wades into the discussion of American politics and controversy over the National Rifle Association.

She describes the hate-mongering that was created by the Nazis connecting the image of disease-carrying rats to Jews. Dehumanizing goes from separation to conflict, to taking sides and often to hate and violence. Anger can be useful if it is directed to create positive change but be aware that internalizing it can become exhausting and debilitating.īrown explores the process of dehumanizing. Pain is part of the dance between establishing a sense of belonging to self and others. Believing that intentions are basically good. Sharing and accepting needs and feelings without judgment. Deciding based on values and demonstrating the courage to take a stand.ĥ. Acknowledging mistakes, apologizing, and making amends.Ĥ. Responding respectfully to the response of no.ģ. We can notice these behaviors in others and ourselves.ġ. Trust plays a significant role in belonging, trusting yourself and others. As a bonafide people pleaser, this image resonated with me that is when I have felt rejected I also had a sense of lost in a wilderness. Basic Concepts:īrown uses the analogy of being in the wilderness to describe the times we choose to be firm in our values which tend to separate us from others. The reward is great.”īrown discovered that trying to fit in does not accomplish a sense of belonging but finding ways to trust others and our own selves, does. “You are only free when you realize you belong no place-you belong every place-no place at all. Her research into belonging began with a quote, and then a meeting with, the philosopher, poet, author, and activist, Maya Angelou. At some point she felt disconnected from her own parents and family. As a teen she was not chosen for the high school cheerleading team. As a child she moved to a number of new communities. She shares how she felt a sense of loneliness and disconnect. In true Brene Brown style, she shares her own struggle, confusion and journey of seeking a sense of belonging. The shame and vulnerability researcher, Brene Brown has written another book that informs, pleases and inspires– Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone.

Brené brown braving the wilderness